Question:
My boyfriend is the son of divorced parents since he was 3 years old, today he is 30, he is a super cheerful, hard-working person, with an impressive-hearted nobility, only that he is terrified of commitment, since he fears fall in love, he says he loves me very much but fears failure. I don’t know what to do, my family loves him very much. Help me help him please. Thanks a lot. Laura
Answer:
It is a natural fear of the experience that must have been suffered, but surpassable. It would be very good to speak with a priest who can guide you both and help him see the goodness of marriage, if that is his vocation, and that the risks are always present but we have sufficient means which God has given us, so that a commitment can be carried out. While his parents have divorced, yet there are many marriages that are happy despite the daily crosses that, married persons, consecrated, single, thus all must carry. Remind him that our Lord Jesus Christ promised us his companionship and help: fear not, I will be with you, every day, until the end of time. Let him know that these problems are not hereditary but can be avoided by learning from the experience of others and doing what God asks.
Live a good courtship, as God commands, and you will see that marriage will be as God commands, know how to love oneself by respecting each other. The encyclical of Pope Benedict XVI, Deus est caritas, where he speaks of true love, is very beautiful. Frequent the sacraments, pray together, and help yourself by reading Church documents about marriage, on Catholic websites you can find a lot of material that can help you.
God Bless
Fr. Miguel A. Fuentes, IVE
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